Coming up with something to say in the moment can be tough—especially if you’re focused on avoiding conflict but also don’t want to end the conversation with the other person thinking you agree with them or having to resort to agreeing to disagree for the umpteenth time. Here are some suggestions from psychologists:

“I understand your viewpoint, but I see it another way.”

You should first validate the other person and acknowledge that they have a right to their opinion in order to soften the disagreement and offer a friendly, rather than combative, tone. This statement, for example, is a direct yet validating way to communicate disagreement, which can be useful with colleagues.

“I hear you, though I have a different opinion.”

Use this warm approach with family members or your partner.

“I can’t go along with that one.”

This would be best used in a casual setting, like a social event with people you’re not very close with. It feels subtle enough to avoid an unnecessary argument, and it is direct enough to express that we do not agree on the matter.

“Your argument is valid, but I don’t agree.”

Clear and concise, use this response with friends, colleagues, or family members who tend to be talkative, or don’t give you an opportunity to express your own opinion.

“I am trying to see it your way, but ultimately I think differently about this situation.”

This communicates that you genuinely want to understand their viewpoint but still do not agree.

“I truly appreciate and respect your opinion, but I see it differently.”

This message takes the edge off and softens the blow of your disagreement. It may be good to use with your partner, or even supervisor at work.

“That’s a really unique perspective. I haven’t thought of it like that before.”

It’s entirely possible that this is the first time you’ve considered that perspective and aren’t yet ready to commit to agreeing or disagreeing with it.

The key to politely disagreeing with someone using these, or other similar phrases, is to approach the conversation with open-mindedness, without veering into accusatory or defensive territory. And if you genuinely don’t want to spend a lot of time discussing the topic, communicate this to the person in a respectful way, and do your best to move on.